The Only Negotiating Guide You’ll Ever Need, Revised and Updated by Peter B. Stark and Jane Flaherty

NegoiateNegotiations can brings images of boardrooms where companies executives and lawyers hash out deals and agreements while trying to get the best they can for their companies. Or, it may involve bribing your child to eat his vegetables with the enticement of ice cream.

However, Peter B. Stark and Jane Flaherty, submit that we negotiate more than we realize and often where both sides are happy with the results. A husband may offer to take out the trash and the wife in turns will unload the dishwasher. A son may offer to rake the leaves if he can have his best friend over for a video game night. Examples like these are negotiations and many may not even realize it.

In their book, The Only Negotiating Guide You’ll Ever Need, Stark and Flaherty guide the reader through the negotiating process. From language to use, body postures to have or avoid, and even tips like writing down key data points, the authors intent is setup the reader for success in whatever negotiating environment in which they may find themselves.

Armed with this basic information, the authors then give 101 ways to use this information if varying circumstances. They allow the reader to see a potential way to put into use what they have just read.

I found this book quite helpful and would suggest that everyone read it paying special attention to information on listening and hearing. How much trouble could be avoided if we simply listened and asked the appropriate questions to clarify when talking to someone?

*I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.

Play the Man by Mark Batterson

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What makes a man? Many people have tried to give an understanding of what it is to be a man. Some have pointed to ancient cultures of warriors, politicians, and leaders. Others point to modern man and the ability to climb the corporate ladder and be successful in business. Still others point to athletics or the military to prove their masculinity.

In his book, Play The Man, Mark Batterson gives seven virtues that make a man. He does this by drawing references from scripture and pointing to how God designed men to be and how this fulfills the purpose for which they were created.

The area that really stuck out to me was that a man should not shirk his responsibilities to others. He is responsible to God, to his wife, and to his family. He is not to abdicate in anyway these responsibilities to the government, to others, or to no one at all.

 

This challenge is really beneficial to me because I am a father of three and want to be active in the development of my children. Sometimes it is easy to just watch sports and remove myself from their world. But having these challenges in my life to remind me that they are much more important than a sports game is something that I need consistently.

I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher and exchange for my honest review.

Know Who You Are by Tim Tebow

TebowHow does somebody discover their true identity? There is a lot of information on the subject and sadly some of it has a poor foundation. Because of this, Tim Tebow has written a book Know Who You Are. It is an interactive guide to discovering your true identity with a special emphasis directed at homeschoolers. However anybody can benefit from the information in this book whether they are home-schooled or not.

The book is divided into four parts with each part being building on each other. The first section, dealing with who you, are goes into who an individual is. Why they have value and worth. Recognizing that worth comes from God because God created each person with unique talents, gifts, and abilities. Because of this each person has worth far beyond what they can possibly understand. Tebow relates that he is not valued because of his athletic ability. Rather he is valued because he is a child of God.

Part 2 is realizing that God is in control and allowing Him to control your life. By relying on God a person does not have to fear the unknown but must simply put their faith in God for guidance. Also, relying on God for strength to live for Him allows a person to live for more than just today.

Part 3 is interaction with fellows human. By recognizing everybody has value, because they’re God’s creation, individuals begin to treat people differently. They treat them with respect, and ideally love, because they see people as valuable; not as tools for personal gain.

With that in mind the last section deals with living bigger and that has to do with not living for yourself but rather living for others with the intent of showing God to them.

I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher and exchange for my honest review.

Grace is Greater by Kyle Idleman

9780801019418The grace of God is something that is very difficult to understand. On the one hand, we appreciate it. On the other hand, because we do not understand it we may find it difficult to accept it from God and extend it to others.

In his book, Grace is Greater, Kyle Idleman gives a understanding of what Grace is from the Bible and then explains why it is so necessary in the life of a Christian. Often people exclude themselves from certain types of roles because they feel they are unworthy based on past mistakes.

Idleman shows that the grace of God can overcome any past mistakes and as a result no one should be considered unqualified if God has asked himi/her to do something.

He then points out that grace is greater our own personal lives. We should extend grace when we want to take vengeance on somebody, or if somebody injured us. God has given us so much grace that he has made the relationship between himself and us possible. Why should we not extend grace to others?

*I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.

The Power of Significance by John C. Maxwell

71c55b11a511f4417e4ba194127f2773People want to live their lives with significance. They want to know they made a difference and lived with purpose. Sadly, not many would describe their lives as having purpose and most may admit that they do not live their lives with any sense of direction.

Leadership expert John Maxwell has written a small book titled The Power of Significance. This book, a condensed version of Intentional Living, seeks to aid the reader in finding their purpose and from this revelation, begin to live a life of significance.

Maxwell first starts by getting the ready to recognize that live a life of meaning requires starting to live with intentionality. Do not wander through life with no purpose, no goal; no reason. Rather, Maxwell challenges his readers to see the life they want and begin to make the changes necessary to see this life become reality.

The remainder of the book acts as a guide showing how to find one’s purpose and put small practices to grow and mature. As maturity is realized, purpose becomes clearer and significance begins to blossom.

*I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.  

Good Leaders Ask Great Questions by John C. Maxwell

1e97599960a091645c8bdca50b8ad51fOne characteristic of a great leader is that they ask great questions. By asking great questions leaders can get answers and hopefully find the problems. When problems are identified then potential solutions can be developed.

In his book, Good Leaders Ask Great Questions, John Maxwell gives the reader some excellent resources to lay the foundation for successful leadership. By going through some of the questions that he has asked and questions that are asked of him he can help future leaders develop and understand how to ask great questions.

One area in which he does this is first making sure that the leader is ready to ask great questions. What is meant by this is that if a leader is unprepared for answers that come from questions they are not ready to ask questions.

For example, if a manager decides he or she wants to improve productivity and ask the questions to employees of what slows down productivity he or she may receive an answer that is unexpected. If they are unprepared for candor they may take it as an affront to their management and as a result may struggle with changes that could help the company.

I really enjoyed how this is a more personal style of writing for Maxwell. He really gets into how he has ask great questions over the years and the benefit of doing so and his life. He that extrapolates this to the reader on how asking great questions can also benefit their life.

I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.

No Limits by John C. Maxwell

ee8e68948f0b2f69451e5a1347e3c4a7Are you struggling with the idea that you can do more but just cannot seem to do more? Many strive for more but just cannot seem to find the energy to do so.

John Maxwell, in his book No Limits, discuss three areas to increase capacity in a person’s life. By doing so, a person could achieve more and be more fulfilled in life. The three areas deal with removing what limits a person’s capacity, developing the capacities that already exist, and doing things that maximize a person’s capacity.

Capacity has an idea of being limited. A battery can only hold so much charge. A glass can only hold so much water. Maxwell counters that people have unknown capacities and this book sets out to show each person how to tap into unknown capacity.

*I receive a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.